There are some men who make all of their girlfriends (or wives) do the same thing. That is, all of the girlfriends in turn have to sing in his band, or work in his yard, or throw dinner parties with him, or take cross-country motorcycle trips together, or swing dance. And I think to myself, I could never be such and so ‘s girlfriend (or wife) because I don’t want to do whatever that thing is that all his women have to do.
Sometimes you’d rather just opt to retain whatever good memories you have about certain people than deal with the current version of them, which will produce no good memories and likely crush any positive feelings you’ve managed to keep.
There ought to be a word for the experience of feeling left out of events you wouldn’t want to be part of in the first place.
Many years ago I realized that my mother hadn’t given me a model for how to be a woman. I was largely left to figure it out for myself. I subsequently told this to the man I was seeing. He said no, she had provided a model; it just wasn’t one I wanted. I thought that was insightful and probably more accurate than what I’d said.
So I just saw Black Panther. Kinda makes you want to start working out…
As with the words “I love you” the words “I’m sorry” shouldn’t be proffered without elaboration or detail.
If you see me walking along staring at the ground I am not shy or depressed. I am looking for money.
