Occasionally in the blog I’ve written up dreams I’ve had. I’ve also written about perception and where it fits in my experiences. I’ve had dreams that have helped me sort out how I felt about something in my life. But I can’t think of any that gave me a specific piece of information. Not before two nights ago.
There’s a person I’ve known by name and face for a long time. Not someone I know socially or have ever had a conversation with. It’s not even a friend of a friend, someone whose name comes up in conversation. In the dream however, I learned the person is gay. Even if the simplest explanation is that my subconscious mind took the opportunity (of dreaming) to feed details through the open channel to my conscious mind, it felt like I was being given information.
A lot of times in dreams, you hear or see things that are surprising. You notice for the first time that you can fly. Or that a baby can talk like a full-grown adult, things of that nature. Huh! You think. Would you look at that?! How did I not notice this before? And then as you slowly wake up, you consider the newfound information, and slowly shake it off; no, squirrels don’t really sing in 3-part harmony, you don’t own a yacht, you don’t advise the president, etcetera.
The dream I had the other night, though, was different. As I started to awaken and consider it, I felt it was true. I need to clarify that I never thought consciously about this particular individual’s sexuality before and I’m certain I assumed, to the extent I would have even registered it, that they were heterosexual. It simply had not been on my mind; I don’t even know this person.
It isn’t even what I “learned” that is most interesting to me; it’s that I did. So far as the specific topic, though, I typically do want to know if people are gay, straight, between, or uninterested. I’m curious! Sometimes realizing someone is gay answers questions I might have had.
My dreams, as I’ve said, have helped me sort out situations or experiences in my own life. This one is notable because it wasn’t about my life, not even about someone I know much beyond name. Of course, I guess I now need verification of the dream – to see if it’s true – but I’m not going to go out of my way to get it. It doesn’t interest me enough (it’s not like I was told where a stack of gold bricks could be found buried in the woods), and moreover something tells me I don’t need confirmation.
What I really wonder now is if it was a fluke, and if that’ll be that. I’m curious if anything more useful might come up, but I guess I shouldn’t get greedy or ahead of myself. It rarely pays. Still, I’m intrigued.