Tag Archives: shirking

Don’t hire him

I saw this fellow in someone’s yard shirking his gnome duties. IMG_20190614_113734_kindlephoto-375636

They don’t like you

You know what I’m tired of? Nobody accepts that people don’t like them because they just don’t like them. No, there has to be a reason preferably one that is largely beyond the control of the disliked one. It’s because they are white. It’s because they are black. It’s because they are conservative. It’s because they are liberal. It’s because they are gay. It’s because they are hetero. It’s because they are young. It’s because they are old. It’s because they are poor. It’s because they are rich. It’s because they are single. It’s because they are married. It’s because they are trans. It’s because they are short. It’s because they are fat. It’s because they are disabled. It’s because they are bald. It’s because they have an accent.

There is no question that plenty of times, maybe even a majority of times let’s say, people are indeed disliked for all things I’ve listed and others in the same vein. But I don’t think it’s all the time or as often as people insist. When does anyone ever say any more that somebody dislikes them period? End of story? When is the statement never qualified?

I can’t quite put my finger on when this tendency became so common but I don’t remember it always being this way in my time. When did people get the idea that they should be universally liked and if they are not, it has to be clearly not their fault, it has to be blamed on something? I suspect it’s related to that modern shirking that is so prevalent, the passing of the buck, the entitled helplessness that people love to claim. “It’s not me.” “It’s not my fault.” “I couldn’t help it.” “They made me.” “I was forced.” “There was no other option.” Etcetera.

Lastly, I notice that people encourage one another in this sort of thinking. No sooner than one person says, “Such and so doesn’t like me” than their pal chimes in with “helpful” reasons why like: “Probably because you’re mixed race.” “Oh, they’re just jealous of your blonde hair.” “She must not like short men”. I think people offer these kinds of statements to ostensibly make their friend feel better but in doing so sometimes perpetuate a dishonesty.