The local crime blotter has reported several instances of people agreeing to meet via a dating app, only to result in an individual arriving at the predetermined address where he (I assume he) is assaulted and robbed by multiple men who corner the victim after he’s entered the apartment building.
I hadn’t heard of this particular scam before I first read about it a few weeks ago although perhaps it is widespread. You wouldn’t even need an actual woman to pull off this nasty piece of business; a photo of one would do, just to use on the dating site. If all communication is online, no phone calls prior to meeting, anybody could type messages and agree to meet. It seems like catfishing with a vicious twist.
The police spokesman was quoted in this week’s paper warning the public about these crimes, cautioning that no one is ever obligated to meet at an address the other party has set and can instead insist on their own, such as a public, well-lit spot. The police station itself was mentioned as a good meeting location. (After a rash of crimes involving people who supposedly agreed to meet to sell items, the police previously put the word out that the station lobby was open 24 hours a day and was available for meetings of any stripe between strangers. Which is a great public service.)
Here’s the thing. If a man believes he’s meeting a woman, a woman who has probably already mentioned sex in text communications, he’s going to be happy to be go to her home address, right? Sex! Why else would a strange woman provide her home address? That’s what this guy is thinking. He’s not going to risk scaring her off by saying he wants to meet her in a safe, public location first. He wants her address.
I remember reading once, probably in Esquire that a man was biologically programmed to desire sex so much that he’d risk his life for it. I wondered about that over the years; a man who thinks sex is in his near future is a man willing to take a lot of risk, although I’m not so sure how many will risk their actual lives. I also imagine a man probably thinks he can handle anything that goes awry, if he thinks about it at all. I don’t believe men using meeting apps are going to become more cautious when a woman gives out her “address” with its suggestion of imminent sex. The criminals are tapping into men’s deepest desire and know that many men will take their bait. What an ugly crime.