Short Thought 162 (judging character)

People are often resistant to learning that someone else is not quite what they seem, particularly if they personally haven’t either witnessed or experienced any negative behavior and/or have an investment in continuing to see the person in point in an untarnished light. Most everybody likes to think they are a “good judge of character” but not everybody is and the suggestion the wool has been pulled over someone’s eyes or they’ve been had hurts people’s egos. It is very unsettling to learn things are not as they appeared and, if they allow it, can cause someone to question not only their own judgment but other situations and people, which can feel like a loss of control and autonomy.

11 thoughts on “Short Thought 162 (judging character)

  1. foguth

    Your post made me think of the current political fight for POTUS as well as the various cities (particularly Charlotte, because family lived 15 miles from the center of the ‘protests’ — since when does the National Guard get called in for a ‘peaceful protest’?) Violence seems to have sunk its claws into many, which is creating a no-win situation for just about everyone, yet the news continues to report ‘peaceful protests’…. My point is that individuals are not the only ones resistant to acknowledging the truth.
    Have a wonderful week!

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    1. writerinsoul Post author

      It is confusing to be told things are one way and yet see video or hear reports that suggest otherwise. I think there’s an attempt to keep people calm by implying things are fine or under control but it can backfire.

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      1. foguth

        I’m sure you’re correct. It’s not just misdirection by the media about the terrorist attacks.Our president doesn’t seem capable of seeing the world the same way others do and that weakens our country.

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    1. writerinsoul Post author

      Yes, and/or they tell you how much they have already invested to justify staying. Being wrong about someone is very painful – and people don’t like to appear the fool; they don’t want to be in a position to be told “Didn’t you know?!?” or “You should have known.”

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          1. George

            There is a book called Blink. It essentially says that our initial reactions about people are usually accurate and that we have a tendency to overanalyze those first impressions which causes us to change our initial decisions and make the wrong choices. Interesting read.

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            1. writerinsoul Post author

              Yes, I know the book/author too. I think another reason we may second-guess our impressions is because other people seem fine with the person or tell us how great/good/insert-word they are.

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