Things Men Have Said To Me (#21)

The same guy who said #10 said something else memorable, apropos of nothing, on our very first meeting. He didn’t really address it to me but announced it almost as if he’d thought it over and was now answering a question aloud. He wasn’t even looking at me as he said it.

HIM: “You’re going to be my girlfriend. Yep, you’re going to be my girlfriend.”

(No, no, I wasn’t.)


18 thoughts on “Things Men Have Said To Me (#21)

  1. Andrew Davis

    I had an immediate thought of how old-fashioned his self-talk was. Maybe his interior monologue was lambasting him that he didn’t have a chance. Yep. He needed some bucking up. Another one lost. His loss and our gain.

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    1. writerinsoul Post author

      Old-fashioned. That’s interesting. I didn’t know what to think, although I wondered if it was faux-confidence, a kind of blustering (act like you know what you’re doing!), which dovetails with what you’re saying. And yes, thank you, Andrew, I’m in better company now.

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  2. battlewagon13

    I told my wife the first week I met her that we would be married. Of course she didn’t believe me for a few years, but a dogged persistence and annoyance gradually wore her down. Your guy just wasn’t a big pain in the ass like me.

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  3. Paula Readman

    I don’t like it when people tell me what their plans are for ‘me’. I like to be asked what my thoughts are on the matter. I had a boyfriend who once said to me. “You’ll never leave me because you enjoy have the car too much. Bet you can guess what happened next.
    Yes, I left him, learnt how to drive and got my own car. 🙂 Yes, I love being a strong, independent woman. I only want a man in my life who loves and cares for me as a person, not to run me around and to dependent on financially. I believe all women should be able to rely on themselves if they can because there may come a time when they have too. Another old boyfriend found himself having to help his mother when his father died suddenly. He told me his father did everything and his mother didn’t even know how to write out a cheque, pay household bills etc.
    I’ve always made sure I could cope if I need too.

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    1. writerinsoul Post author

      I hear you! I continue to be surprised by how many people have made plans for me. I’m not exactly a pushover, or waiting for somebody to happen along and save me, so I don’t quite get why I seem like a good candidate for anybody’s fanciful thinking.

      Good for you on learning to drive and getting a car! Statements like that can certainly be motivating. It can be difficult, especially in middle age, to suss out motives in romantic relationships – I find many people (men) working with outdated scripts & expectations.

      Unfortunately, there were whole generations of women who didn’t learn basic life maintenance skills. I would guess that’s not the issue it used to be, although there seems to be a noticeable chunk of younger people whose parents do too much for them, so they don’t learn useful skills.

      There is much I personally don’t know but I don’t expect anybody to pick up the slack – it’s on me. Thanks for giving me an opportunity to think about these interesting issues! –Colette



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