Short Thought 79 (“You look good”)

I used to think when people who hadn’t seen one another in a while, met again and one sized the other up and said, “You look good,” or absent people later inquire of another, “How did so-and-so look?” that people were being shallow or superficial commenting on appearance.

I’ve reconsidered. I think now what’s really happening, is that people are assessing deeper matters, like health and mortality even, by external looks. It seems like a primitive instinct; to look for well-being or its absence in our “fellow-man.” We all generally do this by rote, which is why I think it must be deeply rooted.

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8 thoughts on “Short Thought 79 (“You look good”)

  1. Dennis Wagoner

    There is always a risk when interacting with people, especially those you have not seen in a long time. I try to say something along the lines of “So what have you been up to lately?” Usually that gets good results (although not always)!

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    1. writerinsoul Post author

      That’s better than “So, what’s new with you?” You’re right, there are many possible minefields after a time apart. I might say “It’s good to see you.” But only if it is!

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  2. battlewagon13

    I think as we get older we start to think more negatively of ourselves when we really shouldn’t. When someone comes along that we haven’t seen for a while we assume they will look as bad as we think WE do. And when they don’t it’s a pleasant surprise.

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    1. writerinsoul Post author

      Ha! Probably best to leave the surprise out of your tone.

      Some people look old and used up at 40, whereas some look fit and vital at 70. Guessing who will be who doesn’t always play out.

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